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See Through Our Eyes

Is it okay to cry?

I have run a dance school for just over fifteen years, and would like to share an observation I have made with parents. I have seen many young children grow into talented dancers and performers over the years, I have also seen children grow into fine, respectable adults. I am very proud to have played a part in shaping the people those now grown adults have become.

Lately I've been concerned about the amount of children crying over very minor things but what concerns me most is the way too many parents are reacting to the tears! If a young dancer is removed from a small section of a routine or moved from what they may see as a 'prime' position, this is not a reason to cry. Furthermore when your child comes to you in the waiting area of the dance studio or when they arrive home and complain to you, why is the reaction not to say to your child "your teacher knows best, trust that they are doing what is best for you and your class"? Too often parents reaction is to contact me, the Principal. In all my years no student has ever been told they were no longer allowed in the concert, yet most of the time the conversation will go like this: "little Mavis came home very upset as her teacher told her she is not in the concert" or "her teacher told her if she doesn't know the routine by next week she is not in the concert", to which my response is most likely to be "no the teacher said this..." Believe me when I tell you no teacher wants to remove a student from the concert, and it is yet to happen in 15 years. If this were ever the case, trust that you won't be hearing it from your child. I would contact you myself. Your child's teacher wants your dancer to be the best they can be. It would be very wrong if a teacher left a student in choreography they were struggling to achieve no matter what the reason may be. They may have fallen behind due to absences, due to not enough outside of class practice, or purely due to their level of ability.

Rhiannon Johnson